My friend Brian D shared a really good post about how to stay married this week.
I largely agree with Carlos’ list of 11, but it was number three that really jumped out at me:
3. You won’t always feel it. You won’t always choose it. But fortunately you can rest in it. Say I love you everyday.
And then in the sermon today, Daniel was going through Romans 7 and the first bit of Romans 8 (we’re attempting to memorize it as a community over the next 40 days. You can see more about that here, if you’re interested.) He said something along the lines of:
“We don’t fight for victory. We fight from victory. You may not feel victorious. You may not be experiencing victory. But you can rest in it.”
I don’t think that was his exact quote, but it was pretty close to that, because the similarity to Whittaker’s #3 struck me.
I am such a feeler, and so it’s important to remind myself that things like love and Christ’s victory over my sin are real, even when I don’t feel it and even when my immediate experience seems contradictory. My emotions and experiences can be a valuable source of information about reality; but it’s a mistake to think they’re always 100% accurate sources of information.
I need to spend some more time thinking about this idea of resting in something I can’t feel at the present moment. For an INFP “feeler” like me, that’s a puzzling statement.