Saturday morning, I got up early and took a little road trip.Â A friend had invited me at the first of the week to visit, and initially, I thought I would be unable to because of work.Â However, Friday evening I got an unexpected reprieve, and decided to take one of the several friends who made such offers to me up on the offer of a visit.
This particular friend lives in Cincinnati, which is a nice little drive.Â I enjoyed the drive.Â I enjoyed the visit and talking freely about … stuff.Â I enjoyed meeting her family, her horses, and Pete, the farrier/S.W.A.T. cop.
My friend and her husband have actually gone to coaching workshops with credentialled enneagram coaches, so hearing about all that was very interesting.Â She’s a Six, married to a Three, so the entire family dynamic is very different from ours.Â Yet some things are very, very much the same.
Friday night, I had received news that my Granny was put in the hospital in Lexington.Â I had planned to go there after my visit with my friend, but when I called my uncle, he said she’d be going home within a day, and also that the situation wasn’t as serious as I’d feared. Â And I was already getting a bit road-tired.Â A six hour turnaround in a single day is a little draining to me these days.
A few random thoughts.
- The value of a change of scenery in helping get a broader perspective on your personal problems is very real.
- Deep change is a crock-pot process.Â There are no microwave solutions, and that can be very frustrating.Â Especially when it seems you’ve already been waiting and working a long time.
- I have been confusing “allowing myself to be punished for other people’s mistakes” with “not punishing other people for their mistakes.”Â The nature of reality is, some actions are going to have negative consequences for someone.Â Let’s say that someone burns the palm of my hand, accidentally or intentionally.Â Now, one of two things is going to happen: either someone else is going to have to do the work I normally do, or I’m going to have to do my normal work in a lot of pain.Â There is no “consequence-free” option.Â I’ve been viewing continuing to do the work as “me not playing God and punishing the person who hurt my hand” when in reality, what I’m doing is taking the punishment for their carelessness myself.Â Which is another way of playing God.
I thank everybody for their continued prayers and support.Â I may have more to report on that front later.