Missing in action

Tonight was the October meeting for my writers group, Quills & Quibbles. I missed it, since I’m in southern California for a work event. Along similar lines, I had to tell someone who called from my son’s school that the odds of me making it to parent teacher conferences this week were nil.

I’m missing from a part of my life while I pursue this part. I often tell people that my only real problem in this season of my life if geography– I can’t be in two places at once, and there are times when I’d like to be.

I’m trying to remain involved and engaged in all parts of my life, geography be damned. When an email said my daughter had signed up for an online game, I clicked the link she needed for approval after reading what it was. I’ve text messaged Chris as often as I can. And I’m trying to keep he work places spinning, too.

What about you? Do you have to be an invisible but involved presence in parts of your life at times? What helps you stay connected?

Love from California, kat


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    Life is just too busy these days, Kat. Women need to be super-humans: have a job, be a mother, a tiptop partner, householder, top chef, sportswoman. And that is challenging (read: frustrating) at times.

    How I keep involved? Like you, through text messages, e-mails. Trying to be there when it really matters and trying not to feel guilty when I can’t.

    I just hope that my sons think with fondness of their childhood. That’s the best gift a child can give you.


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    It is frustrating, Marion. More than frustrating, it’s impossible. I think you’re right that we’re not helping things when we feel guilty for things we can’t really help. For not being superhuman. We try to make sure that in the midst of the madness, we create great memories for our kids, too.

  3. Charles Robinson

    I am where I am, and I’m there fully. Whatever else may happen I devote my full attention to what’s in front of me at any given moment. I don’t even pretend to multitask. That isn’t to say I only ever have one thing going on, I just don’t let myself get distracted by the other stuff. I set timers and reminders to keep everything moving forward. Spontaneity has its place, but so does a schedule.

    Or at least that’s how it works in my head. In reality it’s often barely controlled chaos with a passing glance at what was planned. But at least there *was* a plan! πŸ˜‰


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    Missed you at the meeting! We still had a good one, though, in spite of all the casual vacancies. πŸ˜‰

  5. Kat French

    Charles – I’m moving away from multitasking as much as I can. Although, I do work at a pretty fast clip, so sometimes it’s hard to distinguish between “multitasking” and “rapid task switching.” I wonder sometimes if my naturally fast cognition is a help or a hindrance when it comes to being present and engaged in the moment. I sometimes feel like linear time moves at the wrong pace… of course, the other possibility, that it’s ME that’s moving at the wrong pace, rarely occurs to me.

    Marian – I *really* missed Q&Q. Nice JK Rowling joke, though. I’m on the fence as to whether I want to read The Casual Vacancy. I don’t know that I was that much enamored of Rowling’s writing as I was Harry’s story, KWIM?


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