1. Sue Ellen

    I come across this a lot, trying to set my students up to succeed. It is a struggle because many do not want to succeed. I remember teachers that I was sure set me up for failure and I try not to be like them. I’m not sure I have done that in all cases, though.

    Sue Ellen


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    That’s a good point: not all students want or are ready to succeed. Lots of people are more comfortable being “small” and failing and feeling like the world owes them.

    Successfully accomplishing something implies you have the freedom and power to do so. Freedom and power are scary. Success is scary.

  3. Sue Ellen

    Not that it is an excuse, but don’t you think it has a lot to do with the way we are brought up. Teens still need guidance, they are not ready for complete freedom even though they may think they are. Encouragement from parents goes a long way.


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    I don’t know anybody who got the appropriate level of guidance from their parents as a teen. You either have people like … a person I’m very close to… whose parents gave them no more freedom at age 16 than they did at age 6 (which consequently left him not terribly prepared to be responsible for himself).

    And then you have the other end, where parents just retreat in fear from the whole “parenting a teen” thing and just basically abandon parenting their kids at puberty. Like Natalie Wood’s dad in “Rebel without a Cause.”

    Nobody knows how to make that transition, do they? Or very few.


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