“Things would be so different now if this had happened instead of that”
“I keep wondering, if I’d only done this instead…”
It seems like everyone around me is mentally rewriting the past and the present, trying different possible realities on for size, evaluating what is against what might have been.
I’ve spent a fair share of my time doing the same thing. Trying to cipher out what I did wrong or right, or what someone else did wrong or right, that landed me in this particular unexpected bend of the road.
That’s the thing about life. It doesn’t really care about your plans. So you can chart all the courses you want, but it’s much better to just be prepared and flexible for the opportunities that come your way. – Rebecca Thorman, Modite
I’m at a bend in the road I didn’t really see coming, too. And it’s good and scary and amazing and sad and potentially a little inspiring.
Between the “there” that was me “in the dark place” seven or eight years ago, and the “here” that is currently exhilarating the heck out of me, I had to spend a little time sitting on the riverbank, trying to figure out how I’d missed the fork I needed to get where I wanted to be. That’s a part of the journey that I would never discount.
But at a certain point, you have to put your boat back in the stream, and see where the river takes you.
Often, that unintended destination is a much better one than you could have imagined when you started out.